<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[The Couples Therapist's Toolbox]]></title><description><![CDATA[Couples Therapist Toolbox]]></description><link>https://www.couplescounsellor.com/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Tue, 08 Sep 2026 09:34:38 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.couplescounsellor.com/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[What Informs Your Secrets Policy in Couples Therapy?]]></title><description><![CDATA[Many couples therapists, especially newer ones, adopt a no secrets policy.  This makes a lot of sense.  For one, it's counterintuitive to keep an affair secret when working with a couple to build connection and safety.  There is also the practical reality that holding a secret. It adds another layer to manage when couples therapy is already complex. You are tracking two people, their interactional pattern, their individual experiences, the alliance with each partner, the goals of therapy, and...]]></description><link>https://www.couplescounsellor.com/post/what-informs-your-secrets-policy-in-couples-therapy</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a999c374cfbcaf9f8739d8f</guid><pubDate>Thu, 03 Sep 2026 16:14:48 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/28fed2f3c95f4589a1259daaedda1b0f.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Amanda Bacchus</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Your Role as a Couples Therapist Is Not to “Fix” the Relationship]]></title><description><![CDATA[When I first started working with couples, I believed my job was to help repair the relationship.  We go to a doctor to feel better and get healthier, why wouldn’t my role as a couples therapist be to “fix” the relationship? It seemed logical. This is a common belief among newer therapists.  Aspiring couples therapists want to help couples to  communicate better, feel more connected, understand each other, heal old wounds and, ultimately, leave therapy with a stronger relationship. So when...]]></description><link>https://www.couplescounsellor.com/post/your-role-as-a-couples-therapist-is-not-to-fix-the-relationship</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6a997236472e9aacd877a466</guid><pubDate>Thu, 03 Sep 2026 13:15:39 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/11062b_0f085b7ac58f48499277be8b48bf7fe0~mv2.jpg/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Amanda Bacchus</dc:creator></item></channel></rss>